Why you should not pay attention on Parental Alienation Syndrome?

Why you should not pay attention on Parental Alienation Syndrome?

Parental Alienation Syndrome is accepted and defined by the society. If you haven’t experienced it, you will never try to hold your attention on to it. This is a syndrome and hot subject for those who suffered or still suffer. This blog is for those who want to find solution. Those who are looking at the problem, will never found a solution for it.

Parental Alienation Syndrome is caused by human attachment and judgmental behaviour. This happens every day and probably everywhere on the world. When the people live together, they become bothered each other. If they separate, they will suffer. Some of them will try to forget the situation by using drugs, alcohol or what ever just because they believe that this is the solution for it. This is a way to escape from the situation, not a solution. For example, you can’t heal a wound if you scratch it every day or continue to hurt it. No one can’t stop the game if they play that game. You can’t loose from chess if you don’t play.

Some psychologists said, that parental alienation is a form of child abuse.

I believe that this is the result of many subconscious actions and reactions from the both parents. When this happened, there will be many changes in their behaviour. One of the parent will have many desires to hurt another one, just because of subconscious reaction and thoughts of revenge. That parent won’t see the details of the created situation and will fight for the kids. Then, the children will live only with one of the parents, but another will look ways how to gets in touch with the kids. In most of the cases, the courts change the game.

If you take a look at the situation, you will see it clearly if you have no any judgmental thoughts about it. Otherwise you will find the good, the bad and the worse parent in the scene.

There is no good or bad weather. It’s just weather and it changes every moment. When there are clouds on the sky, there is possibilities to rain. It will not rain only in some cases. If it’s rain, you will use your unbrella or you will get in your car. Whatever, you found the solution for a rainy day. Now, I will move your awareness back onto the event – parental alienation syndrome. If you want to “protect” yourself from it, you will find solution, instead to dig in the “problem”. You will not try to stop the rain, but instead you will use your umbrella or find shelter.

May be next your question should be: How to protect yourself from Parental Alienation Syndrome?

How do you protect yourself from a barkling dog? How do you protect yourself from the wasp which wants to bite you? In both cases you won’t show any reaction and you will remain calm. When it’s rainning, you should not run to home. You can find a shelter near to you, instead. If you understand that your actions and reaction create your reality, you should be aware of it. If you understand the Law of “cause and effect”, you will understand that if you react at given situation, you will create many reactions in consequences and many situations after. It should be endless game.

Do you want to stop the game? There is only one way. You should try to be responsive than reactive. Than the game is over.

It does not matter how bad you are in the eyes of your children, you know the truth about, If you try to change their mind, It can cause much more sorrow.